It is also really fun and entertaining to read, Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 12, 2015. The author is hilarious and I love her honest account of her experience becoming a mother of three in France, adapting to their philosophies there. In search of other company, I trek across town on a series of “friend blind dates,” with friends of friends from back home. But these public services don’t explain all the differences I see. That said, I think the book offers one perspective on some of the differences between French and American children and why. The men working the same beat as me managed to pick up Costa Rican and Colombian wives, who traveled around with them. The main reason that pregnant Frenchwomen don’t get fat is that they are very careful not to eat too much. But French calculators tell me to gain no more than twenty-six and a half pounds. Parenting magazines run long features on how to minimize the damage that pregnancy does to your breasts. Nobody seems to like the relentless, unhappy pace of American parenting, least of all parents themselves. Her writing style is light, conversational which makes for an easy read. French mothers assume that even good parents aren't at the constant service of their children and that there's no need to feel guilty about this. ), French doctors treat the weight-gain limits like holy edicts. Members register for free and can request review copies or be invited to review by the publisher. The only mirroring I get is in a book by Edmund White, the American writer who lived in France in the 1980s. For Simon, it just seems to signal an aversion to shelves. “Who, George Clooney?” he asks snidely. The cheese plate aside, we’re really here for no reason. . What I do have, spread out in front of me, is a fully functioning society of good little sleepers, gourmet eaters, and reasonably relaxed parents. He’s the first person who affirms that feeling depressed and adrift is a perfectly rational response to living in Paris. Druckerman provides fascinating details about French sleep training, feeding schedules and family rituals. Please try again. I try to channel my inner pragmatist instead of my inner neurotic. It’s no big deal,’ et cetera. I’m sitting in a café when a well-dressed woman interrupts me to describe a new study showing that consuming a lot of caffeine increases the risk of miscarriage. Paperback. Even if they grow up to be geeks, they can mention “growing up in Paris” and be instantly cool. American pregnancy calculators tell me that with my height and build I should gain up to thirty-five pounds during my pregnancy. Bring your club to Amazon Book Clubs, start a new book club and invite your friends to join, or find a club that’s right for you for free. Though I’m off the grid, I do need human contact. À la carte wisdom from the international bestseller Bringing up BébéIn BRINGING UP BÉBÉ, journalist and mother Pamela Druckerman investigated a society of good sleepers, gourmet eaters, and mostly calm parents. I did enjoy this and found it an interesting set of observations on French child-rearing. Your recently viewed items and featured recommendations, Select the department you want to search in, Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting, Switch between reading the Kindle book & listening to the Audible narration with, Get the Audible audiobook for the reduced price of $8.99 after you. Simon and I have talked about babies. I heartily recommend this book to any moms but especially those who are in their 30's and looking for a funny and fresh approach to the dialogue about parenting that we are unaccustomed to having. I lived in France for year and had already been introduced to the books, French Women Don't Get Fat and French Kids Eat Everything so I was already a bit biased towards French culture. What gets me is the indifference. (I’ve decided to believe that his parents adore me.) “He explained to me, ‘You seem like a fairly reasonable person. The runaway New York Times bestseller that shows American parents the secrets behind France's amazingly well-behaved children, from the author of There Are No Grown-ups. Enjoyable to read and actually makes me feel more relaxed and excited about having a baby instead of stressed and anxious. The few times it was mentioned, I just assumed it was frame to help the reader understand the groups she spoke with but she reemphasized it repeatedly throughout the book and after some time it seemed like bragging or being condescending. I realize this anxiety is in the British ether, too, when we visit Simon’s family in London. Instead, I commune with other pregnant Americans in due-date-cohort chat rooms. He says everything, including “I love you,” with a little smirk. Then she demands to be sprung from her high chair so she can dash around the restaurant and bolt dangerously toward the docks. Simon and I each stake out our respective cafés nearby and retreat each morning for some convivial solitude. Some pregnant Frenchwomen do get fat. For a while I subsist almost entirely on omelets and goat-cheese salads. Please try again. Only suddenly they aren’t expecting anything. If New York is about the woman who’s ruminating about her past screwups and fumbling to find herself, Paris is about the one who—at least outwardly—regrets nothing. Tellingly, the Pregnancy Diet says that I can “cheat” with the occasional fast-food cheeseburger or glazed donut. Cancel online anytime. One workmate takes me out for a farewell lunch, then won’t walk back into the building with me. There’s no new, must-read book, nor do the experts have quite the same hold on parents. Despite having nothing more serious than boy troubles, many of my friends in New York were spending more on therapy than on rent. What to Expect contains something called the Pregnancy Diet, which its creators claim can “improve fetal brain development,” “reduce the risk of certain birth defects,” and “may even make it more likely that your child will grow to be a healthier adult.” Every morsel seems to represent potential SAT points. This book set the course for parenting in my early days of motherhood. My big issue with the book is that she emphasizes in nearly every chapter, multiple times that she is middle class and that she is talking and gathering opinions from middle class parents. It doesn’t seem like it. Certainly no one I meet is comparison shopping for a parenting philosophy or can refer to different techniques by name. . In BRINGING UP BÉBÉ, journalist and mother Pamela Druckerman investigated a society of good sleepers, gourmet eaters, and mostly calm parents. Reviewed in the United States on January 24, 2017. She tells me that she eats steak tartare, and of course joined the family for foie gras over Christmas. Book Condition: New. Eligible for FREE Shipping. Did he scrub the cutting board after chopping that raw chicken? I also like that, within six months of my arrival, practically everyone I know in America comes to visit, including people I’d later learn to categorize as “Facebook friends.” Simon and I eventually develop a strict admissions policy and rating system for houseguests. There's a problem loading this menu right now. Parents don’t have to pay for preschool, worry about health insurance, or save for college. Members of the group, called Message, can tell you where to find an English-speaking therapist, buy a car with an automatic transmission, or locate a butcher who’ll roast a whole turkey for Thanksgiving. “For me, the evenings are for the parents,” one Parisian mother tells me. This book gives a very different approach to pregnancy and parenting than the typical pregnancy books, which I love about it. The infant mortality rate is 57 percent lower in France than it is in America. The Americans I know also believe that pregnancy—and then motherhood—comes with homework. .orange-text-color {font-weight:bold; color: #FE971E;}View high quality images that let you zoom in to take a closer look. The secret behind France s astonishingly well-behaved children. (College friends later tell me he was known at school for serving drumsticks that were charred on the outside and still frozen on the inside.) Loved this book! When Pamela Druckerman turns 40, waiters start calling her "Madame," and she detects a disturbing new message in mens' gazes: I would sleep with her, but only if doing so required no effort whatsoever. Livré : mardi 5 janv. Walking around, I feel besieged by all the bakeries and meat-heavy restaurant menus. There are always a few rounds of crying and consoling. When I ask waiters for “dressing on the side,” they look at me like I’m nuts. Interrogating them isn’t much help either. I’m starting with that outcome and working backward to figure out how the French got there. Please try again. I was thinking someone had to have written a book on the French philosophy of raising kids. The French pregnancy press doesn’t dwell on unlikely worst-case scenarios. . We never speak again. And I saw her and I found it monstrous. The French have all kinds of public services that surely help make having kids more appealing and less stressful. 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